Cheers to choice

The holiday season is upon us, and with it comes a whirlwind of parties, gatherings, and celebrations. It’s a time for joy, laughter, and togetherness. But for some, the festive cheer can quickly turn sour when faced with the pressure to drink alcohol. As we raise our glasses in celebration, it’s essential to remember the importance of creating a comfortable space for those who choose not to partake.

The Struggles of Not Drinking

Choosing not to drink alcohol can be a difficult decision for many, and it’s not always as straightforward as it seems. For some, it might stem from personal beliefs, health issues, or a history of addiction. For others, it could simply be a preference or a desire to avoid the negative consequences of alcohol. Whatever the reason, we must recognise that the choice to abstain can come with its own set of challenges.

Imagine walking into a lively party where everyone is raising their glasses, and you’re met with curious glances or probing questions. “Why aren’t you drinking?” “Are you on a diet?” “Come on, just have one!” These comments, though often made with good intentions, can create feelings of isolation and discomfort. Instead of feeling included in the celebration, non-drinkers might feel like outsiders, grappling with the weight of judgment or misunderstanding.

The Impact of Judgment

Making someone feel uncomfortable for their choice not to drink does absolutely nothing to help the situation—it only exacerbates the problem. The pressure to conform can lead to anxiety, feelings of inadequacy, and even shame. For individuals who may already be struggling with their relationship with alcohol, this kind of scrutiny can be incredibly detrimental.

We must remember that everyone’s relationship with alcohol is different. While some may enjoy a drink or two, for others, abstaining is a crucial part of their well-being. By pushing someone to drink or making them feel lesser for their choice, we are not only invalidating their feelings but also potentially triggering past traumas or insecurities.

How Can We Foster Inclusivity?

1. Respect Their Choice: The most important thing we can do is honor someone’s decision not to drink. If someone politely declines an alcoholic beverage, simply accept it without further inquiry. A simple “No worries! Enjoy the party!” can go a long way.

2. Offer Alternatives: When hosting or attending gatherings, consider providing a variety of non-alcoholic options. From sparkling water to mocktails, ensuring that non-drinkers have delicious and festive choices can help everyone feel included.

3. Shift the Focus: Instead of centering conversations around drinks, engage with others through activities or shared interests. Whether it’s a game, music, or simply catching up, there are countless ways to connect without alcohol being the focal point.

4. Lead by Example: If you’re comfortable, choose to enjoy non-alcoholic beverages yourself. Your openness can encourage others to feel more at ease with their choices.

The Bottom Line

Let’s raise our glasses (whatever they may contain) to inclusivity this holiday season. By creating an environment where everyone feels comfortable with their choices—whether that means drinking, abstaining, or anything in between—we should foster a sense of belonging that enriches our celebrations.

In a world where peer pressure can feel overwhelming, let’s be the voices of support and acceptance. The next time you find yourself at a gathering, remember that the joy of the season lies not in what’s in our glasses, but in the connections we make and the memories we create together.

Cheers to choice, understanding, and a season filled with love and inclusivity!

With love,

Kathleen x